I’m Gretel. I’m a Family Relationship Coach + Trauma Therapist helping exhausted 'neurospicy' single mums running their own business feel less stressed and more supported so they can confidently create an amazing life for themselves and their kids dancing to their own beat.s.
I’m the lady ready to walk by your side holding a lamp so we can explore your inner world together and get to know all those parts of you that don’t feel relaxed and support you to parent the way you were designed to so you can have better relationships with yourself and your children and create a life and family life you truly love.
I've walked this path. Just over 12 years ago I found myself trapped and miserable in a marriage with a man who was emotionally and physically abusive on a daily basis, with two very young children in tow.
One day when he flew into a rage and threw a chair across the room narrowly missing my 3-month-old son’s head, and my daughter said as we both cowered in the hallway, “mummy, don’t say that to daddy, he’ll just get angry”, something clicked inside my head. I thought as I looked into her frightened and tear-filled eyes, “hold on, I get to say how I feel and what I want in a relationship. This isn’t right, my little daughter thinking it is OK to be treated like this in a relationship with someone or to live walking on eggshells every day like this” and I decided I’d had enough. I packed up the car with my 3-month-old baby son and my 4-year-old daughter and as much stuff as I could fit and drove away.
The years following were a tumultuous and numbing ride of spiralling bills, constant threats and abuse from him and trying to make ends meet with two very young kids in tow, who I realised later were traumatised too.
But I dived into rebuilding and paying off debts by getting work locally the best I could through the fog of utter exhaustion and overwhelm that hit me in waves each day.
I came across life coaching and transformational dived into studying both of those modalities along with some NLP, and started seeing clients in the evenings and weekends, then in one day each week. This turned into two days each week when I discovered embodied trauma processing work and certified in another couple of modalities to add to my toolkit and my healing. Then I went full time in my business when my income matched the meagre part-time income and I was finally working for myself. Scary but exiting.
I found myself a wonderful somatic therapist at this time too and started diving painfully deep into all of my negative patterns of behaviour and feeling that were uncomfortable.
My newfound awareness of myself and my inner world, allowed me to relate to my children in a new way, which allowed them to heal too.
I was still spinning my wheels though, no matter how much healing work I did and started to wonder if there was something wrong with me that I couldn't quite create the life I wanted for myself and my kids or help people in the way I wanted with my work, like others did, no matter how much I tried to push through and do session after session and program after program.
But finally, with the gentle support of another somatic therapist, I recently realised that all three of us are most likely neurodivergent, which explains a lot of the struggle, and the process of embracing my own and my children's uniqueness has opened up a whole new way of being the world that feels good and has allowed us to move forward.
You’ll be able to benefit from the wisdom I’ve learned the hard way on my tumultuous journey with two young children in tow, through a overcoming seemingly insurmountable challenges, healing myself, embracing my own uniqueness, my children’s uniqueness and creating a life for myself and my children that I truly love, with better relationships as a parent successfully, the way I was designed to that feels deeply satisfying, connected and with a deep sense of peace.
I know from my own experience and from the experience of working with countless other parents, that transformation to creating a life with that deep sense of satisfaction & peace, along with the confidence and deep connection that comes with parenting the way you were designed to, is yours to have too.
Get in touch with me to find out how.
Using human design, non-violent communication and somatic trauma therapy to help parents heal their trauma, regulate their nervous system & use the Ultimate Parenting Handbook, I’ve developed a incredible program to support them to give themselves & their Whenkids the best foundation possible for the impact they are here to make in the world.
I’m NOT here to tell you how to parent or give you more cookie-cutter strategies that don’t work.
Instead, I’m here to show you the roadmap of how you are uniquely designed to parent your unique child, in the most unique way, that they need to thrive and feels good for you.
When you work with me, I’m going to help you reconnect to your family, to yourself, to your kids and to you partner (if you have one!), by helping you get:
👉 the SUPPORT you need when you feel overwhelmed from trying to do everything and be everything to everyone all the time.
👉 the ENERGY you need when you feel exhausted from how constant parenting is.
👉 the PEACE you need when you feel stressed & worried about how you are going to help you child or deal with their behaviour.
👉 The CLARITY you need when you feel stuck on what to do next.
👉The DEEP CONNECTION you crave with your kids when you feel you are so busy that they don’t get the best of you.
My free 30-minute Discovery Session is the perfect way to explore and find out the best way to start heading towards creating a family life you live with all the energy, clarity and support you need for it to feel good.